Children and Criticism Or How Criticism Effects a Children’s Life and Mental Health

Today the topic of mine you already read is the most important topic for us because our children are the future stars and the ones who are very important persons in our country but we just ignore them and hurt them unconditionally.

Here, we’ll discuss why all this happens. We easily say that our child is not confident or has low self-esteem but we don’t focus on WHY? Why my child is not confident and has low self-esteem is just because the elders or their parents ignore them and expect more. We as a parent or elders just ignore our children or just compare them with other children why don’t you do like that he did better than you? Remember every child is different like every flower blooms at its perfect time. Your child is just like a flower to you. You just don’t burden them to do all the tasks earlier I said that every child is different and have their abilities and qualities that other child not have. Don’t judge them otherwise they’ll lose their confidence and always be dumb. Try to be their friend so that they’ll share every single thing with you.

Some children also think that they won’t be successful and can’t achieve more. This is all because their elders and parents always criticize them that they have to get the first position or you have to be better than their friends. The comparison makes them feel like that and in the end, they won’t be able to achieve what they can because trust issues make them weaker. For these behaviors child had to suffer a lot.

Children are so precious, try to deal with them with love. Always trust them and trust their abilities because we as elders have a very big responsibility to raise them good for our country, for our nation. Because one negative word or criticism could break them or affect their life for the rest of their life. Because when the child is constantly criticized, this could affect their future relationships and may be one reason why children exposed to a high level of criticism are at risk of things like depression or anxiety.

“if they’re simply paying less attention to facial expressions generally, it Could change how they are interacting with others,” (James).

Criticism breaks them and they lose the confidence that they are also good and can achieve more. Even parents are doing bad with their children unintentionally.

The question arose “WHAT IS TOXIC PARENTING”?

When individuals discuss hepatotoxic folks they’re usually describing folks whose United Nations agency systematically behaves in ways that cause guilt, worry, or obligation in their kids.

THERE ARE SEVERAL CHARACTERISTICS OF ‘TOXIC PARENTING’ TOO:”

• SELF-CENTERED BEHAVIORS:

There’s one more reason youngsters may react to criticism. they may have to bother with self-control, social talent, and managing emotions. And in some cases, youngsters are also super sensitized once they’re scuffling with a talent.?”

• PHYSICAL AND VERBAL ABUSE:

Abuse may not always be hitting or yelling, but it can be verbal and it is more dangerous than that. Because words hurt you more and you always remember that and it hits you hard for a long period.

• MANIPULATIVE BEHAVIOR:

Your parents may try to control you through your emotions and always criticize you in every situation. They always let you down and never appreciate your decisions. This may lead to creating problems in a child’s life.

• LACK OF BOUNDARIES:

Toxic parents may push you always and in this way you get tired and frustrated by that behavior which may lead to very serious issues if any child is being pushed always for not getting full or best grades then maybe that child will be fed up with the studies also.

If as a parent, we will understand our child’s problems then it will be easy for them to survive and have a healthy life. You can be toxic in unexpected ways. We should be polite and good towards them as they’re the future stars and they should shine not be depressed or sad generation.

Now, if we talk besides parents there are so many other relations or people as well in our life who are toxic to us. They just abuse us verbally and they just can’t realize it and make it a fun activity for them. Making fun of someone in front of others especially a child could affect them and their mental condition because they are so much sensitive and get hurt easily. Some people are persons who are not toxic for others but for you as they do a comparison and criticize you even for the small things and they’re even much elder than you. Mostly these kinds of people are from your relatives or family members. In all these situations we should look out for whether there’s something wrong with our child or they’re facing something bad. If we as a parent judge them and criticize them then they’ll be far away from us and it will affect their life so much, which will lead to depression and anxiety.

Another most asked question is:

“why do some children overreact to criticism?”

The answer is some children are likely to overeat criticism when they’re hungry or tired, or when they’re trying out a new skill. There’s one more reason youngsters may react to criticism. they may have to bother with self-control, social talent, and managing emotions. And in some cases, youngsters are also super sensitized once they’re scuffling with a talent. Now, we’ll discuss:

HOW DO I STOP my self BEING SO CRITICAL OF MY CHILD?

1. DESCRIBE THE SITUATION INSTEAD OF FIXING A BLAME

FOR EXAMPLE: if your child makes a mess instead of screaming or shouting “I told you to sit down while eating your dinner. Now, look what a mess you’ve made!”, try saying “if we don’t sit down when we eat, food falls everywhere and make a mess. Try to use the best words for your child because they’re very precious and the best gift you’ve ever received.

2. EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS

Instead of screaming and shouting, just express your feelings towards your child that we need to leave now otherwise mama will be late for work and get into trouble. And mama will become sad if she gets into trouble. Try to use the best words for your child. This works even better than criticizing your child because it will affect their their mental health which is not good.

3. PRAISING THE RIGHT WAY

When I focus on the right way to praise, here’s something that I found.

“make the praise descriptive not generic.”

For example: “instead of generic “nice effort” say, “you’ve worked so hard on your exams and the efforts now showing the result.” Or “good job” say, “I like the way you’ve shared your toys with your friend.”

We should give them full attention and praise their efforts.

4. FOCUS ON THE EFFORTS INSTEAD OF THE OUTCOMES

When your child shows you some sort of picture or drawing, don’t just say wow it’s beautiful or nice, try to say wow it seems like you’ve put so much effort into it. Try to focus on the efforts they’ve made in that drawing, it will automatically make them happy and feel more confident.

Now, I want to conclude my topic by saying that we must be good parents or elders for our young ones. We should focus on whether we’re good for them or not, and try to praise their little efforts. Don’t be harsh, try to be calm in every situation with your child because your words will mark a stain in their life forever. Be happy and make a healthy and happy relationship with your child and young ones.